On Fathers Day every where we look we see a celebration of fatherhood filled with special food and drinks. Fun activities and basically a day filled with doing whatever dad wants to do. It’s a joyous day! It’s a fun day! Then you wake up Monday morning and that sense of exhilaration is gone only to be replaced with being weary and tired.
You wake up weary, tired, there is a sense of brokenness and anxiety as you roll out of bed and begin your routine. You see, I don’t really want to engage with or talk to the excited and pumped up dad on Fathers day, I want to talk to the dad the morning after.
It’s hard work and exhausting being dad. From the moment we got married and then had kids, our world turned upside down. The college adolescent days of partying, late nights, and binge watching tv shows or playing games came to an end. If it hasn’t come to an end, it should! We can still have fun and actually, it’s important that we do. However, its a different world filled with constantly thinking about how we are going to provide for our kids, if our families needs are met, how to achieve the next promotion or raise to help create some breathing room for our family in the budget. We wake up thinking about those things and go to bed with them rolling around in our minds.
This leaves us weary and tired. However, there is good news. The scriptures give us hope and as fathers we can hold on to these four truths.
God is sovereign regardless of circumstance:
Let’s speak candid. We are not the kings of our castle. If we were, there is plenty of reason to not only be weary but terrified. Everything will crumble around us as we realize how unable we are to handle all that is on our shoulders. The good news is that God is ultimately and sufficiently sovereign. That means he rules everything and everything is subject to his Kingship. All we have to do is turn to John 1:1-3 to see this tremendous truth. Since this is true, our circumstances don’t shake God. The details and concerns that keep us up at night don’t stress God out. He is in control of all of it and is working those things together for our good and His glory. God is King of our circumstances and in an almost mysterious way he works through our circumstances to cause us to grow in our love and affections for Him.
If there is doubt that is creeping into your heart about this truth take a moment to read John 1:1-7 and the book of Job. John 1:1-7 gives us the theological framework for this truth. The book of Job shows us how this plays out in the life of one of God’s faithful servants.
P.S – If you are a wife reading this take a moment in the day to remind your husband of this truth. Encourage him and pray this over him.
We are not on our own:
Now that we know that God is sovereign there is a tremendous implication to this truth. We are not on our own. We have a tendency to walk through our day, make plans, and take actions with the mindset that we are on our own. Sometimes we keep things from our wives or loved ones fearing that they will stress out so we take this tremendous burden on by ourselves. If God is sovereign, and we know he is; we also know that he is active in our lives. He didn’t create the world by speaking and then walk away like an absentee father. Some of you may have experienced that growing up. An absentee father physical or even emotional is painful. God did not walk away, rather after creation he stepped into humanity and remained active. God is empathetic and truly cares for the people he created in his likeness and image.
For the weary father, this truth is like holding your breath under water to the point of passing out and then coming out of the water and getting that first breath of fresh air. It is life giving. Literally life giving. Knowing God is with us, and that he walks alongside us should fill us with hope and joy. It’s like going into a pick up basketball game with the 95’96 Michael Jordan walking next to you (Yea, I went there) Unstoppable!
P.S – Wives, if your reading this take a moment to pray for your husband. He may not show it, but some degree he is weary.
We have the perfect Father to turn to:
One of the most important characteristics of God is that he is our Father. The imagery of God that we see throughout the entire Bible is of a loving, caring, and perfect Father (2nd Sam7:13-14, Mt 7:7-11, Rom 8:15-17). Keep in mind, the fact that he is loving and caring also means that like any good and Godly father he brings correction and discipline (Prov 3:11-12, Prov 13:24). When we feel hopeless, weary, and exhausted, we can and should turn to our heavenly Father. He comforts us in the midst of our pain and tragedy, he sings over us with delight in the midst of our joy and praise (Zeph 3:17).
We have the hope of the Gospel:
To the weary father, live in light of the hope that the Gospel gives us.The hope we have is found in the finished work of Christ. We could never accomplish what he did, and our striving to accomplish what he has already done will only leave us weary and tired. Continue to preach the Gospel to yourself. Remember the hope that you have in Christ and take joy in our adoption as sons of God and co-heirs with Christ. Rest assured in these simple and fundamental truths:
- God is sovereign regardless of our circumstance
- We are not on our own
- We have the perfect Father to turn to
- Live in light of the hope of the Gospel